Entitlement Isn’t a Dirty Word, It’s Your Birthright.
We’ve been taught to fear our own bigness. Conditioned to apologize for our needs. To preface our desires with “if it’s not too much trouble,” or “just wondering if maybe…” as if our very existence is an inconvenience. But here’s the truth: asking for more isn’t ungrateful — it’s aware. It’s knowing your worth and refusing to negotiate with mediocrity.
Entitlement, when rooted in self-respect, is clarity. It’s the quiet audacity to say: I matter. My boundaries matter. My rest matters. The way I’m treated matters. It’s walking into rooms like you belong — because you do. Not because someone handed you a seat, but because you built your own damn chair and made it velvet.
This isn’t about demanding handouts. This is about reclaiming what you were always worthy of but were taught to shrink from. Your softness is not weakness. Your standards are not high-maintenance. Your joy is not something that has to be earned through suffering. You can want more simply because you’re done settling.
So yes — you’re entitled. Entitled to change your mind. To take up space. To be messy and magnificent and still expect kindness. You’re entitled to a life that doesn’t drain you. To relationships that don’t require self-abandonment. To boundaries without explanations.
If that makes you “too much” for some people? Good. You were never meant to live in spaces that require you to be less.
So Here’s Your Permission Slip:
Be unapologetically entitled. Demand what you deserve. And if someone calls you “too much”? That’s their limit, not yours.
This Month’s Selfish Toolkit
Journal Prompt
“Where in my life am I asking for less than I want, just to seem ‘reasonable’?”
Write about the places you’ve settled—and what you’d ask for if you knew the answer was yes.
Affirmation
I am allowed to want more.
I am allowed to expect more.
I am allowed to receive more.
Mood Playlist:
“The Entitlement Era”
Curated for high expectations, big entrances, and walking away when the vibes are off. Featuring: Victoria Monét, Beyonce, Frank Ocean, Janelle Monáe, Kendrick Lamar, and more.
The Read:
“Sister Outsider” by Audre Lorde
Because being fully yourself in a world that demands you dilute is the most entitled thing you can do. Start with “The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action.”
Selfish Recs
Product of the Month:
OM Lion’s Mane Organic Mushroom Powder
Big clarity. Main character focus. Zero tolerance for mental fog. This isn’t just a supplement, it’s a statement: I came to think clearly and take up space.
Stir it into your morning matcha or smoothie and call it brain fuel for the boundaries you’re about to set.
App to Try:
Meditation, breathwork, movement — reimagined for real life. Open isn’t about perfection or becoming a “better” you; it’s about coming home to yourself, one intentional breath at a time. Sessions are short, powerful, and never preachy.
Think: less “zen guru,” more “you, but grounded as hell.”
Closing Words
So here’s your challenge this week: start assuming you belong. Walk into the room like it was designed for you. Ask for what you need without cushioning it in apology. Let entitlement feel like an energetic posture—not arrogance, but alignment. Not ego, but embodiment.
And when the voice creeps in—the one that says, “Who do you think you are?”—answer it boldly: “Someone who’s done settling.” You don’t have to prove your pain to earn softness. You don’t need to be on the verge of burnout to deserve a break. You can just… want more. And get it.
This season is about making bold requests. Setting clearer boundaries. Loving yourself so out loud, it becomes a warning and a welcome. So take up your space, reclaim your rest, and remember: you’re not selfish—you’re self-honoring. And that changes everything.
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